Do you wish you were better at public speaking or have more self-confidence? Dr. John Demartini explains how we can achieve these.

Sharon Atkins asks Dr. John Demartini about building self- confidence.

Some people are insecure and afraid to speak up. How can we find that confidence and ability in ourselves and make ourselves heard?

Dr. Demartini– Anytime we infatuate with somebody else and put them on a pedestal, admire them and put them above us and feel too humble to admit what we see in them is inside of us, we are going to sacrifice what we want to say and what we want to do for them.

Every time we meet people that we think are more empowered and more authoritative, more intelligent or spiritual, we tend to withdraw and shrink, instead of shine.

So, the thing to do is find out what we admire in other people or what we are intimidated by and go and found out when and where we demonstrated those traits and find them in ourselves, because nothing is missing in us. Once we do that we realize we have those traits in the same degree that we see in them we don’t shrink. We stand up and share our message as much to them as they do to us and we end up in dialogues instead of just listening.

So the public speaking fear has nothing to do with speaking, it has everything to do with speaking in front of the person that you think has something you don’t. So once you realize that what you have is equal to what they have, you are free, you can speak out and let your message be heard.

For more information on Dr. Demartini’s work and seminars visit the Demartini Website.

Dr. John Demartini is a human behavioural specialist, educator, author and founder of the Demartini Institute, a private research and education institute with a focus on empowering individuals and organizations and transforming micro and macro social dynamics.